here’s a dating tip
if your partner suffers social anxiety or is an introvert, do not force them to go out on a date or hang out with you. more than likely, being alone relaxes their anxiety and recharges their energy. so respect that. and don’t bug them about it or take it personally. you’ll make their anxiety worse or just end up making them feel guilty as shit.
this goes for friends too. don’t do that to your friends.



History of my family cemetery

Top: Vintage photo (circa the 1940’s) taken by my grandmother of her mother’s grave being visited by my grandmother’s aunts

Bottom: My own photo of my great-grandmother’s grave from earlier this summer

My great-grandmother, Gladys N. Shelton, died of the 1919 Spanish flu outbreak when my grandmother was only a week old. As my grandmother was raised by her mother’s parents, my great-grandmother’s grave has been an important place for our family for close to a century. She rests in our family plot in an old mountain cemetery in Broad River, NC. The same cemetery holds my Appalachian ancestors dating back to at least the early 1800’s. Many of the earliest grave-markers are either un-carved or the inscriptions have long since worn away, so it is impossible to date them precisely.